How to Know If a Parrot Hates You?

Does my parrot hate me? This question is very common among bird owners. Mostly, parrots do not hate anyone. Acting out is a result of some kind of fear or external stimulus. Let’s take a look. 

Decoding a pet parrot’s behavior could be tricky.

If you feel like your pet parrot hates you or a family member or is being hostile, there could be many reasons. It’s rarely as straightforward as pure “hate.”

As bird owners, seeing your companion parrot act hostile towards you might be disturbing.

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    But there are several reasons why your parrot’s behavior might have changed.

    In the following article, I will talk about the possible reasons and what you could try to change the hostility.

    How to Know If a Parrot Hates You

    Do Parrots Really Hate Humans?

    It’s not always easy to understand what your pet is trying to communicate. Often we are mistaken in the interpretation.

    When it comes to parrots, some of their behavioral patterns and hostility could make you question if they hate you.

    But be assured that it is highly unlikely that the bird hates you. While it is not entirely impossible, it is extremely rare that your bird has started to hate you.

    In most cases, there are valid reasons why the bird is avoiding you. These reasons may change from time to time, and you must focus on other signs to know exactly what is wrong.

    Why Your Parrot Hates You: Sudden Aggression in Pets


    When it feels like your pet parrot is being aggressive or lashing out, the foremost reason could be fear.

    It could get aggressive if your pet feels threatened or scared because of certain family members or your behavior.

    For instance, if there’s a rise in your stress levels or you’re frustrated, your bird could pick up on the changed behavior.

    This change could cause it to become alarmed and protective of itself. And self-preservation might come out in the form of aggression.

    Territorial Nature

    Other reasons could be your bird might be territorial and protective of its cage and space.

    Or it could be feeling hormonal. It is often observed that pet parrots often can get aggressive during mating season.

    If your pet has a mate in the cage, it could also act aggressively to protect its mate.

    Diseased birds can sometimes become aggressive


    One other common reason is illness. If your parrot is not keeping well, it might get aggressive with you or display hostility.

    Some other symptoms, such as puffing, could indicate that your bird is not keeping well.

    Especially if it sleeps for longer hours, is eating less, along with puffing, you should consult a vet immediately.

    Why Your Parrot Hates You: New Pets

    On the other hand, if you’ve just got the bird, there could be a different set of reasons for its aggressive behavior.

    Change in Environment

    The most common reason is that it could be scared of sudden environmental change.

    Pet birds need time to adjust to their new homes and owners. And till the time they are well adjusted, they will err on the side of caution and keep a distance.

    They will perceive you as a threat until they get to know you and your behavioral patterns.

    This aligns with their survival instinct, where they treat everything as potentially dangerous until proven otherwise.

    Prior Trauma

    If you have gotten a new bird that was previously with different owners, it might be traumatized due to bad experiences.

    This will make the bird highly cautious before trusting you as its new owner.

    Past trauma is often the cause of fear and hatred of humans

    Aggressive Birds

    Some birds might just not have a very friendly personality. So if they feel disturbed by your constant petting or touching, they might display anger and become violent.

    Maybe it is Not Aggressive at All!

    A lot of birds like to give their owners light pecks. Therefore, learn to distinguish between a friendly peck and aggressive biting.

    If your bird is biting you, it might be attacking you to warn you to stay away.

    However, the only true way you can learn why your bird is being aggressive is by always observing their behavioral patterns.

    Only when you know your pet can you figure out why it is being hostile.

    Temporary Discomfort

    It might be a reaction to temporary discomfort or fear. 

    Try to figure out what is causing discomfort to your bird and resolve the issue to make your pet feel safe and secure.

    Signs That You Might Interpret as Hatred From Your Parrot

    There are a few behaviors that you could interpret as hatred from your pet parrot.


    It won’t always get violent and attempt to bite you. Sometimes it will just avoid you and maintain a distance.

    If your pet parrot retreats to the corner of the cage every time you get near it, that could be a sign that it is scared of you.

    If your pet parrot is scared of your hands, it may try to hide or move as far as possible to avoid getting touched.

    Withdrawing and trying to hide from you in the cage is a sign that the bird doesn’t trust you

    Flying Away

    If the cage is big enough for your pet to fly around it, it might also fly away.

    Or if it is out of its cage and sees you approaching, your pet parrot might fly away to put a significant distance between you and them.

    Waiting For You To Leave

    Parrots tend to eat food comfortably when they are in a state of security and relaxation. If they don’t like you, they will eat cautiously or wait for you to leave the room before eating.

    Puffing Up

    Next, if they keep puffing up or widen their eyes on seeing you, it could be a sign of dislike.

    Parrots, when threatened, will be highly vigilant and display it through their body language. They might also breathe faster.

    In the wild, if birds sense a predator around, their defense will kick in, they’ll become alert, and their breathing will quicken.

    This is the exact response you will notice in your bird if it considers you a threat.

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      Now coming to the violent behaviors. They might display their discomfort by biting you if you try to get too close to them.

      Even though gentle pecks are a bird’s way of displaying affection, if your pet parrot does not like you, it will bite you.

      Birds can bite humans as a means of self defense when they do not like the way they are being touched or held.

      Screeching & Screaming

      Another way to understand your bird is by noting its sounds and calls. Different kinds of sounds communicate different feelings.

      If your bird does not like you, it will likely start screeching when it sees you.

      If your presence or moving closer to the bird activates its screams, it is a sign that your bird does not want you to go closer.

      Flapping Their Wings

      Pet parrots might even flap their wings aggressively to keep you at a distance. Smaller parrots usually love petting and being touched.

      It is how they cultivate affection and build a strong bond with their owners.

      However, if it is threatened by you, it is highly likely that it will flap its wings at you to keep you from touching or petting it.

      Flapping their wings at you is a means of trying to scare you


      Another behavior that is common in a few birds, especially larger ones like Macaws, is lunging.

      Birds can lunge from a height as a scare tactic to show you that they can become aggressors, especially if you are doing something that does not agree with them.

      What Can You Do About It?

      As we discussed above, there are two parts to this.

      New Pets

      If you’ve just got the bird and it is still settling in its new environment, there could be a whole set of different reasons why it’s avoiding you.

      Your bird might have had bad experiences with its previous owners. And therefore, your pet parrot will be cautious and keep a distance till it trusts you.

      Try to cultivate a rapport with your pet bird. You can do this by proper training and rewarding good behavior with treats.

      Offering food your bird likes is a great way to gain its trust.

      This will make the bird see you as a friend instead of an enemy.

      Let your pet parrot out of the cage often to fly around. Keeping it caged constantly will lead to irritability and aggression.

      Give your bird time to settle in its new home.

      Offering their favorite food is one of the best ways to bond with your new pet

      Once it becomes familiar with the new surroundings and you as its new pet parent, it will feel much more at home and automatically drop its defense.

      Parrots love affection and attention. Ensure you’re dedicating time to play and socialize with your pet parrot.

      Petting it on the head, playing music for it, or just letting it sit near you, talking to it, will help you build a bond with your pet.

      Lastly, make sure you approach your pet oh so gently. Parrots often scare easily, so any quick movement on your end might spook your bird.

      Old Pets

      On the other hand, if you’ve had the bird for a while and you sense a change in its behavior, try to observe other signs and symptoms to see what could have gone wrong.

      Often pet parrots react to their owner’s moods. If you approach your parrot with a negative mood or energy, it will likely pick up on it and become hostile.

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        So, as a rule, keep your behavior with the parrot as stable and routine as possible.

        If you feel your energy will mess with the parrot, take some time away and approach your parrot.

        Do not become aggressive or shout at your pet bird. This will set its survival alarms off, and it might also become violent.

        If it’s mating season, your pet bird might be acting out due to hormones. During this time, try and avoid getting too physical with your parrot.

        Pet them only on the head and keep a distance to avoid triggering mating behavior.

        Try not to be stressed or angry around your pets, because they will mirror that behavior back at you.

        Wrap Up

        Most parrots have a cheery and chirpy mood most of the time. They are perfect companion birds when trained properly.

        Watching them get hostile with you can be disturbing.

        But worry not; if your bird is avoiding you, it is likely not because it hates you. There could be several other reasons why it is acting aggressively.

        In most cases, with some basic changes and time, the parrot will return to its normal behavior.

        Observing your pet’s other behavioral patterns and responses will help you decode your parrot’s behavior and help you determine when you should be alarmed and when not.

        Thank you for reading!

        Frequently Asked Questions

        How do you tell if a bird dislikes you?

        Birds may display various behaviors that indicate they are stressed, unhappy, or in pain.
        Biting and lunging may be a sign of fear, while sudden screaming or decreased vocalization may indicate stress or boredom.
        Feather picking and self-mutilation are more severe behaviors that may require immediate veterinary attention and medication.
        Stereotypical behaviors, such as pacing and head swinging, may be harmless but can progress to more destructive behaviors.
        Decreased appetite may also be a sign of stress or underlying illness, and birds should be examined by a veterinarian to rule out medical causes.

        How do you know if a parrot is scared of you?

        There are a few signs that a parrot may exhibit if they are scared of you. They may fluff up their feathers, crouch down, or try to hide.
        They may also make hissing or growling noises or try to bite if you get too close. Additionally, they may avoid eye contact or turn their head away from you.
        It is important to approach parrots slowly and calmly and to give them space if they show signs of fear.
        Building trust and positive interactions over time can help a parrot feel more comfortable around you.

        How does a parrot show that it is angry?

        Angry birds may use color patches, posture, sound, motion, and attacks to show their displeasure and warn intruders.
        Flashing bright colors, stretching up tall or crouching into an attack position, making sharp calls or hisses, deliberate motions, and instigating attacks are all behaviors angry birds may exhibit.
        These displays are often enough to ward off an intruder without further confrontation.

        Why does my parrot hate me?

        It is important to understand that parrots are complex animals with unique personalities and behaviors.
        There could be a variety of reasons why your parrot may seem to dislike you. It could be due to a lack of trust or bonding, a negative past experience, or even a health issue.
        It is important to take the time to observe your parrot’s body language and behavior to understand its needs and preferences better.
        Building a strong relationship with your parrot takes patience, time, and consistent positive reinforcement.
        Seeking advice from a qualified avian behaviorist may also be helpful in addressing any issues and improving your relationship with your parrot.

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